Is it possible to speed up the engagement process? Can you get your man to propose to you? Well, over the years, women’s magazines like ‘Glamour’ claim to have found the perfect formula for getting your boyfriend to get down on one knee. The first thing to remember, though, is not to put pressure on him to propose. That is a sure-fire way to make him run scared from the very idea. If dropping hints is not enough, simply follow the tips below to get him to propose in no time.
Work out how ready he is to get engaged.
Be subtle about this. Test out his reactions when you mention a news article you read about marriage. Tell stories about people you know getting engaged and see if he reacts with interest or positivity. Plant the idea in his mind so that he starts to mull it over. Put marriage firmly on his radar.
Show him that you are ready to be engaged.
Whilst your man is pondering the topic of engagement, demonstrate to him that you are more than ready for him to propose. Tell him how much you love him and how committed to him you are. Speak to him about how much you value the idea of getting married.
Use his senses.
One of the weirdest tips offered by Glamour magazine was, quite simply, to roast your man a delicious chicken before discussing the topic of engagement. But, apparently, it works! Those comforting, warming cooking smells will make him feel that home is the place he wants to be – and you are the person he wants to be with. Ladies, we give you what has been called the ‘engagement chicken’.
Demonstrate what a great wife you would be.
Don’t just tell him you want to marry him – show him how great it is to be married to you. Be there for him when he needs you – whether that means making him a packed lunch for work or fixing his car tires for him when he gets a flat. Listen to his worries and make yourself indispensable to his life. Show him that he can rely on you for the rest of your lives together.
Acknowledge and banish his worries.
Many men worry about getting married not because they are commitment phobic but rather because they feel that they are not good enough for you. So tell him how wonderful he is, and how you want to be with no one else but him! Paint a picture of how fantastic it will be to be committed to each other for life and discuss together how this would enhance your relationship.
If a man has to fight for you, he will value you more. This doesn’t mean giving him petty ultimatums (‘wear only red for a month or I will leave you!’) but it does mean taking your man out of his comfort zone. Make him value you by making him work for you. The adrenaline and excitement that this challenge involves will help him to see you as a real catch – someone to be prized. In short, it will help him to see you as wife material.
Talk to him calmly and honestly.
Practice talking about marriage in a calm and neutral voice. That way, when you talk to him about the subject, he will feel totally comfortable. Remember making your man feel like you are trying to persuade or pressure him into getting married will often just make him feel defensive, annoyed and resistant. So speak calmly and be prepared to listen to him calmly. In short – have a polite and civilised conversation, keeping things kind and keeping things honest, like the two grown up adults that you are.
Conclusion – can you get your man to pop the question?
The short answer is yes. If you guys are good together, there are plenty of things that you can do to hurry things along. Just follow the tips above! But, if it was never going to work, following these tips will do little to secure you a happy marriage. If you are sure you want to go for it, though, get roasting that chicken, massage his shoulders after work and give him a challenge!