Picture this – you like this guy but he never seems to notice you, or he does, but he is quite shy. So this means chances of him ever approaching you and starting a conversation are almost nil. Frustrating right? Well, it doesn’t have to be with these tips on how to start a conversation with a guy you like.
Ask For His Help
Men love to help especially if it’s a woman asking for their help. So if there is some hunk you have been eyeing for a while, your best bet to start a conversation with him would be by seeking his help.
The good thing is that you don’t need to think up a very complicated situation that you can position as the source of your frustration. It can be something as simple as asking him to hold your books for you as you tie your hair back in the best position. And as you do that, ask him some friendly questions to start a sustained conversation.
Compliment Him for Something
You can never go wrong by dropping a few kind words in the way of a compliment. Men love to hear nice things spoken about them because it strengh their ego. The compliment can be about his exceptional performance if he happens to be an athlete. Or if he has a good fashion sense, drop him a compliment about that.
In most cases, they will thank you for your kind words, drop you a compliment too and ask questions to get to know you more. Isn’t that exactly what you want?
Seek For His Advice
This one is close to seeking his help but it is on another level as it opens you up to engage him on an intellectual level. And this will ensure that you have a lengthy conversation that can overflow to a coffee date. Another advantage is that it will afford you the opportunity to establish whether he is a guy you can depend on for a good advice as a boyfriend.
But note that the kind of advice you ask for is limited by the level of interaction you have had with him in the past. If you have just met him, don’t ask for advice on very personal stuff. You can contain yourself to something very general like professional advice if you happen to be in the same industry.
Make an Interesting Comment
One of the best ways ever to start a conversation with a guy is by making a comment about something. It works perfectly when you are two strangers who happen to find themselves in the same setting. So to break the awkward silence between you two, you can opt to make a comment about the weather.
Or mention something about that unique experience you have just had if you two happen to be in an event like a conference. Make sure you frame the comment in a manner that suggests that you are dying to hear his opinion of the same.
Ask For the Time
One icebreaker that has always worked for women looking to start a conversation with a man is asking him what time it is. If the man is playful enough he will respond to you with a witty pickup line. But even if he can’t think of something witty, he will follow up his response with a comment meant to keep the conversation going. And all you need to do is to flow with it to see if it will lead somewhere.
The Bottom Line
Clearly, starting a conversation with a guy is not that hard. However, the challenge remains keeping the conversation going. One of the best ways you can overcome this challenge is by asking him open-ended questions that will not attract simple one-word answers. [Read also “How to Talk to Men” to learn more on how to keep the conversation going].
Also, make sure that the conversation that you are having is balanced. You do this by sharing your personal experiences on what you are talking about, so they also get to know you. Now go and apply these tips!